Want to know the dark, downside of being a business owner? Especially in the early days, when it’s just you and a dedicated band of loyal friends who have more faith than common sense (love you guys…you know who you are). It all falls on you. As advertised, I am vending at Cairo Shimmy Quake this weekend. And boy do I not want to go. Scratch that. I want to go. The spirit is more than willing. The flesh, however, says that in this year of the plague, my cold logged, snot drenched, behind, should seriously spend the weekend in bed, resting.
But I can’t. I have committed to vending this event. I have committed to the 8 hour drive through Death Valley in a car with no air conditioning. I have committed to at least one 14 hour day (Saturday). And I do want to go. I enjoy vending. I enjoy meeting new people, and talking about silk. I like the surprise when I tell people all the things I do to silk. I like hearing about people’s projects and what they are making. I like guiding them to a good silk for their project.
But there is that downside. The side that says “I’m sick, I should be sleeping.” And that is the downside of company ownership. Yes, I’m sick. But I can’t take the weekend off to sleep it off. Because as the owner, good company representation ultimately falls on me. So I am packed. The hobo-mobile is ready to go. My helper bee knows what time to expect me tomorrow. Now to sleep as well as possible, and hope tomorrow brings better energy levels.
After the event comes project planning. After the tear down and the load out, you review what worked and what didn’t about the event so you know what to do better next time. Not just next time for this particular event, but at your next vending event. And project planning. Where do you go next with your business to keep moving you forward on your path to success?
For me, it is pattern design. While it’s a long shot that I will have a working pattern by the time I pack for Cairo Shimmy Quake, it’s not impossible. I know what I want to make and I have the sewing skill. And since my self imposed blog challenge is over, I have more time to devote to my next project–pattern making.
Which will be interspersed with costuming for costume college. And prepping my classes for costume college. Oh crap, I forgot about costume college! Which leads us back to choices. I MUST go to costume college. I signed up to teach three classes, it’s an agreement I made, so this is a must do. Costuming for costume college can be fudged slightly. I don’t HAVE to go all out and create new gowns for each event. Many do, and I have in the past, but it is not a requirement.
So with that knowledge, I will make patterns. I will create my class content for Costume College. And if I have to limit my new costumes, then I will do that too. Choices move us forward in life. If A than B, but not X. It’s ok to give yourself a break to save your sanity. Pick your battles and fight those battles well, and in the end, you will win at life.
That bit of pithy philosophy was brought to you by post-event exhaustion. Talk at you all next week 🙂
Yesterday, I wrote about UFOs and picking your project. Today, I write about time. As in, it is fleeting, and madness is taking it’s toll.
My next vending event is next weekend. Fortunately, I have no costumes I need to make for this event. Unfortunately, two weeks after that, I DO have costumes I need to make. Which I don’t have time to make. Because I committed to this blog. One post a day from 3/16 until 4/21. And in yesterday’s post, I mentioned the importance of practicing willpower. But all things come at a cost.
Time is a finite resource. We all have the same twenty four hours. But the time I spend writing this blog is time I am not spending sewing costuming. There is only so much one can do in a day. Generally need to sleep for 8 hours. I work for 8 hours at my day job. And I spend at least 1.5 hours eating. Another hour at the gym…the gym is not my natural habitat, but I am trying to take better care of myself so that I am able to make the most of the other 23 hours in my day. Spend one to two hours maintaining my various animals (three birds, three cats, two dogs), and cleaning my house.
Which leaves me 3 hours to work on my business. Three hours to blog, to check inventory, to make signs, to plot videos, to plan outfits, and to sew…which I can’t do until I finish this quest of one blog a day.
Because by choosing to write one blog a day, I have to give something else up. Giving up sleep and eating are impractical for health reasons. For the same reason, I can’t give up going to the gym. My health is the only thing allowing me to keep up with everything else. Until Damask Raven is a self-sustaining business, I need my day job, so I have to give that my all during the 8 hours I’ve committed to it. So three hours to blog, sew, and run a business in general.
But wait! What about weekends? No, I do not work the day job on the weekends. Usually. Except when I do work the weekends so that I can take a long weekend to vend for Damask Raven. While this is not a common occurrence, and I have had several weekends between March 16 and now, I usually take several hours on the weekend to NOT work. On anything. Because hitting the go button without pause leads to high stress burnout. And collapse. Which is what happened last October through December. Three months to re-collect myself and get back on track. So yes, downtime is a requirement.
So, rather than beat myself up over NOT getting costuming done for Miss Fisher Con, I dug in to my existing costuming closet, found some appropriate alternatives to wear, and have moved on. Once I get through the next week of blogging, I can start prepping my costumes for Costume College. And I won’t be blogging every day, and making towels for sale, and prepping dances for performance pieces. And I will be motivated and focused on completing the very best costuming I can for Costume College. Having chosen my outfits, I am excited to start working on them. Only my willpower keeps me chugging along on this pre-existing project.
This is an annual event held in Southern California at the end of July. I’ve been twice, once just to go, then last year I taught. And the class was so wonderful and open, I decided to teach again. So, here is what I am teaching at Costume College 2017. All three classes are on Sunday, July 30.
9am to 10am What’s in a Weave. This class is designed to talk about different weaving techniques, specifically silk weaves; however many techniques are universal (plain weave, satin weave, twill). And this class will teach you which weave is which.
11:30am to 1pm From Street to Stage: A History of Oriental Dance Costuming in Egypt. Called by many the oldest dance, Raqs Sharqi has a long performance history. But what did they wear? While the standard costume is well known today, they didn’t always wear Bedlah when performing. Learn the differences between street wear and stage wear used in this lovely art form.
4pm to 5pm Care and Feeding of Silk. This is the class I taught last year and in it, I answer all your questions about working with silk. How delicate is silk? Can it be washed? Can you iron silk, and if so, how? Do you use starch? Bring your questions to Care and Feeding of Silk and I will answer them (if you can’t make it to Costume College, you can always contact me and I am happy to help by email).
So that’s it for what I am teaching. However, on the flip side of teaching is studying. And class schedules are set to mail out this week! And then there are the parties! Each night holds a different event. So traditionally, Thursday night is the pool party. This years theme is Happiest Place on Earth. Now, since the overarching theme is the ‘6o’s, this one is specifically meant for vintage Disney. But wait! There’s more! You don’t have to dress on theme. And this year, I’m going half theme. I am going Disney…just not vintage.
Friday morning is Freshman Orientation, for those new to Costume College. Now, I didn’t go to Freshman Orientation, even when I WAS in college, so I have yet to attend this event. But it looks to be full of excellent information.
Friday night, is the ice cream social. The theme this year is Casino Royale, and all spies are welcome. I am again, interestingly enough, going with a Disney themed character. Not from the Spy angle, more from the Casino angle. Hey, I worked twelve years in a casino…I know a little bit about what customer service is like in that dark den of iniquity.
Saturday before entering the Gala party, you get to walk the red carpet in your finest dress. This years Gala is Dinner at Tiffany’s, a nod to the fabulous Audrey Hepburn’s Little Black Dress. And here is the crux of my problem. Not quite four months out, and I have no idea what Cinderella (me) is wearing to the ball. I have ideas…but nothing set in stone. I know sort of what I’d like to do, but not sure I have time to do it, with my other vending events between now and then. And the day job. So I’m working on it. It may end up being vintage and vaguely couture. Or it could be fully designed, draped and drafted to me. It all depends on how well outside forces work with my schedule to make it all happen. So fingers crossed, I get it all done.
In joining the SCA, the boyfriend and I were trying to determine persona. This is a fairly common ritual for those who think they may be around for the long haul, and most people have a general idea of where they want to go with their character creation. Vikings are common, as are 14th and 15 century knights, Elizabethan nobles, even Ottoman and Arabian persona are fairly well represented. Less represented, at least in the West Kingdom, are Mongolians. And the boyfriend, wanting to not follow the crowd, decided he wanted to be Mongolian. And the more I learned about the Great Kahn (Genghis), the more on board I became with the idea. To learn why I have nothing but mad respect for the “Barbarian Hoards” led by Genghis Kahn, I highly recommend Genghis Kahn and the Making of the Modern World, by Jack Weatherford.
But this blog, this site in general, is more interested in textiles. And in this case, what DID the Mongolians wear? When the average Mongolian rolled out of bed in the morning, how did he or she dress? So I set out to find out. And let me tell you, this was not easy. Mongolia, while not specifically insular, is not as mainstream as say, Samurai, The Black Prince, or even Sulieman. But, in researching Mongolian Fashion, I did find some VERY interesting pop culture references.
So Mongolia, while not traditionally mainstream, clearly has some influence on Hollywood beyond Netflix.
But that still leaves the question of Mongolian Clothing. Generally speaking, men and women wore much the same thing. There were differences in Armor and decor, but the style and cut of Mongolian clothing is uniquely suited to the harsh life on the Mongolian plateaus, which makes unisex style garments eminently practical.
So for starters, both wore pants. Both men and women were accomplished equestrians, and side saddle was literally unheard of in Genghis Kahn’s Mongolia. And while women could ride in carts, generally, transport by cart was for the sick and elderly. Everyone else rode or walked. And since Mongolian winters are brutally cold, with temperatures routinely reaching to -4 to -45 Fahrenheit (-20 to -45 Celsius), pants were a necessity to keep from freezing your lower extremities.
Mongolian warriors would wear a silk undershirt because it was believed to assist in removing arrows that might successfully penetrate armor. Women would not have necessarily needed such an undershirt, in that there is no evidence they actually went to war with the men. Not to say they didn’t, but there is no evidence to that effect. Also not to say they didn’t wear undershirts. Mongolia, as shown above, is COLD. Layers would be the order of the say, even in Summer. So while no extant garments have been found, it is not unreasonable to assume undershirts were worn.
The Deel is the garment worn by both men and women for which Mongolia is known. Originally made of hemp, as Mongolian culture progressed it came to be made of wool, cotton, and eventually silk. Of course the reason for this is that Genghis Kahn basically hi-jacked the Silk Road and all tithes and taxes thereof, usually in the form of silk, spices, and livestock, made it’s way back to the heart of the Mongolian Empire, resulting in vast wealth for the Mongolians. And Silk became a staple of their wardrobe, useful not just in deflecting arrows, but for high fashion in Mongolia. If the Deel was insufficient for warmth, more layers in the form of vests or additional coats might be added. But generally speaking, the Deel, carefully woven and lined, provided all the protection Mongolians needed from the rapidly changing climate in Mongolia.
Over the Deel is a long sash, wrapped several times around the waist. The sash wrapped allows for a pocket to form in the Deel, in which anything from small items to small livestock can be kept, depending on the needs of the moment.
Boots are stiff, heavy leather, turned up at the toe. Several explanations have been given for the design. My favorite ties back to the Shamanic tradition of Mongolia. Tradition says that if the toe is not turned up, it might gouge mother earth, so that the turned up toe is respectful to her, to avoid injury.
And finally, the hats. Discover Mongolia says there are 400 styles of hat worn in Mongolia, and lists some of the reasons and styles found. But my favorite example of Mongolian style bleeding over to the west was from Contemporary (to Genghis Kahn) fashion, when women in Europe adopted the Boqta in to the Hennin.
You’ve done it! You’ve fed the muses and kept them happy. They in turn are feeding you inspiration. And all that hard work is starting to pay off. Maybe it starts with a bang, you launch your business, and it’s an overnight success story. Or maybe it’s a slower burn. A post like here, a sale there…it’s more gradual, but ever upward. It’s slow, but you know you’re on the right path.
As wonderful as success is, it also comes with a side dish of bitterness. See, success will show you who’s really in your corner. You’re true friends will continue to support you. They’ll cheer on every post like, every sample sold, every customer response, good or bad. They may offer critique, but it will always be constructive (hey, have you thought of this?)
You’re not so true friends and full on haters will start with venom. It probably won’t be as obvious at first. Snide asides. Hints that something is off or less than perfect. The trick is to weed out the genuine pieces of helpful advice, the things that can help you move your business forward and in to your next level of success, from the bitter remarks of a jealous friend.
I don’t say former friend, because even jealousy can pass and someone can find they are genuinely happy for your success. Or it’s entirely possible that in your flush of success, you turn in to a bit of a snot, and what is offered as genuine critique is blown all out of proportion by you. In which case, pull your head out! Seriously, success gets awfully lonely and if you turn in to a snot, you will chase all your friends away. Then when you need a friendly ear to run an idea by, all you’re left with are sycophants. And there is no way to improve when surrounded by yes men (or yes women).
So celebrate the wins, big or small. Keep your friends close, but listen to the haters. Sometimes your next direction will come from the most unexpected source.
No, not another cloth weave. While I will continue with my descriptions and details of different silk weaves, that is just one of my projects. And to give my brain a break from this is that, I thought I would outline some of my plans and upcoming events. Busy, Busy, Busy.
And on top of vending plans, I am learning to make patterns, hopefully soon to be on sale everywhere Damask Raven vends, and learning to digitize embroidery, for that perfectly matched trim. And because I feel I’ve been neglecting my blogging here at Damask Raven, I set myself the task of writing one blog post a day from two days ago until Hot Raqs. Now, that isn’t entirely selfless. One of the classes at Costume College is a class on different silk weaves. By writing the posts, I’m prepping myself for that class. And hopefully sharing some knowledge along the way.
So I am juggling. A lot. And learning a lot. Pattern making is new to me, and once I get the hang of it, I’m looking forward to a series of blog posts highlighting my progress. With the thirty seven posts in thirty seven days I set myself, I will probably start that soon, as it is a learning process and curve. And continuing to show off the Baby Lock, although I’ve decided to speed up the lessons a bit with that. Also have to keep up with stain removal and the Folly of Dry Cleaning Everything. So more posts to come, and I will try to mix it up, so as not to bore everyone with this is that blog posts.
Almost a year ago, my mom gave me a pack of Frixion pens. And she was very excited because if you mark fabric with the Frixion pens, then iron over the mark, the mark disappears. This is SO COOL! No more tracing paper! No more wheels leaving pin pricks in your fabric! No more uneven lines from the combination of wheel and paper! I loved my Frixion pens instantly.
So I used my Frixion pens pretty heavily on all my projects. In May I taught my Care and Feeding of Silk Class at West Kingdom’s Golden Beltane. And one of the kind ladies told me of a rumor that if the fabric got cold…like, for example, during a long flight…the ink would come back. Having not heard that I was immediately horrified. I used these pens on EVERYTHING! And the marks were gone! Could it be true?
Fast forward a few months. I did not mention the Frixion pens at Costume College because I needed to know the truth of the allegation before recommending their further use. And I finally bit the metaphorical bullet and did my Frixion pen test. And sadly, yes, the marks did come back.
But, as per usual at Damask Raven, I did not stop there! The challenge then became, are the marks truly permanent? No! No they are not. A minimal amount of effort and a little Dawn pulled the rest of the stain right out. Why Dawn? Well they are wax pens. I figured if anything would cut through the fat base in wax it would be Dawn. And I was right.
So yes! Use Frixion pens. They truly do make it easy. Or don’t. Using even something as easily removable can be very nerve wracking and if your comfort level says tailor’s tacks, then use tailor’s tacks. In the end, it’s all personal choice.
Thank you for reading, I hope this was useful. Til next time…
Oh lord! Costume College is just around the corner. Which means I am jumping both feet in to the sewing storm in preparation. First up, have to finish the vest for my Steampunk outfit. And I should have had this outfit done for the Steampunk Convention in March, but time got away from me there, leaving me with a half finished project. Luckily, the theme of the High Tea at costume college is…STEAMPUNK! Which means I just need to finish this vest…
Next, I have to figure out how to paint lekku…and me. I have the pants for my Imperial Assassin, sort of. Need to shorten the legs a bit, turn them more in to knee pants. And I have to make the top and half cloak. And thanks to American Duchess, I also have the shoes!
Also have to make dresses for day wear for Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, then decide which will be the outfit for the Friday night social. I may or may not be in 18th Century that night. Sort of depends on how the rest of the sewing escapades go. Whatever I wear, it will be Silk! It’s exhausting just looking at the list, and one would think that two months is plenty of time. One would think.
But one is also trying to run a company, start another company, further one’s studies, LEARN ALL THE THINGS! And help friends, walk ones dogs, spend time with the boyfriend, work a day job, clean the yard…. You guys know how life gets in the way of what you’d rather be doing. Which is why blog posts with updates will be so very important! If I have to report here, I might actually stay on track and get all the things done that need to be done. It’s a thought, at least.